Be Productive, Not Busy

Read Tyler Ward’s article here: http://www.tylerwardis.com/busy-isnt-respectable-anymore/

Next time anyone asks me about my life, I guarantee 100% I’ll respond with “busy.” It’s a solution word to describe everything at all times and dismiss any problems in order to address them later, if ever. Yet it lingers heavily afterwards – and guilt trips other people to say “same here” to feel accomplished or valued. What does “busy” really mean though?

Throughout my whole life, and especially through college, I made an effort to stay “busy,” to consume as many opportunities as possible that came my way. But I was constantly seeking more. For what reason? Maybe to feel that I was doing something worthwhile, maybe to feel important. It gave me an adrenaline rush, to think I was racing against time to achieve more than I could manage. “Doing nothing” was a toxic phrase for me because I wouldn’t know what to do with myself. Looking back, in those times I was “busy” I was doing too much and forgetting to make myself a priority. But it wasn’t taking on too many things that got to me, it was getting wrapped up in taking those things and leaving them unfinished – because I was too “busy” all the time.

Like Tyler Ward says, it’s all in my head – the more busy I think I am, the more busy I believe to be, which then causes me to think I have no time for anything. This article challenges us to avoid the word “busy” and replace it with more specific, engaging words to describe our lives. Once we do that, things will seem more real, more connected, and possibly more manageable – leading to solutions for that personal project I keep pushing back or that friend who I haven’t seen in months. Talking about situations in detail makes us think through the process of solving those problems, increasing productivity. I would prefer a productive life over a busy life, thanks.

We all have busy lives. But one person’s busy is different from his best friend’s busy or his neighbor’s busy. And what we often don’t do is un-busy ourselves, to take a step back and think why we’re so busy, what is worth our time, and what isn’t. Then weed out the ineffective and let the essentials grow.

My first sentence is false, then. I’m going to try deleting “busy” from my conversations this week, and instead face those apparently busy issues by thinking through them elaborately. At the end of the week, I will be back here celebrating being queen of productivity with a new blog post.

So life happened, and I didn’t come back a week after. But, I have felt more productive by avoiding the word “busy” and have already gotten back on track with one of my personal projects. This year is off to a good start.

A Year to Focus

2013 was a year for many changes. While change is exhilarating, it’s also tiring. This year was filled with great memories, but I’m ready to move forward.

For 2014, I’m taking all the time I need to focus on myself. There are so many things I’ve put on my ever-growing to-do list, including unfinished blog posts, that I’ve put off because of one excuse or another. One day, it was because I was figuring out my career path. Another day, I was too tired. And before I knew it, I was making excuses left and right – weeks flew by, then months.

My career, aside from dance, is the most important thing for me, and not knowing what direction I was heading earlier this year made me nervous. I currently have that figured out and feel much better about it, but I’ve ignored the smaller things that made me the best that I could be, to really take care of myself.

This year, I have personal goals to help me figure out who I am as a dancer, thinker, friend and family member. While the new year gives us a chance to start fresh with a clean slate, I’ve already started tackling some of my projects. Why wait until a date to tell me when to start something? So here’s to 2014, a year for planning, preparing and focusing.

Graduation with my sisters
Graduation with my sisters
Spring NYC trip
Spring NYC trip

Featured: 3 Reasons to Travel While You’re Young

Read Jeff Goins’ post: 3 Reasons to Travel While You’re Young

I saw this on my friend’s Facebook page and I absolutely had to repost it. Not only does the author, Jeff Goins, touch on the positives of traveling, but many of his points apply to my life right now. With just 20 days until I become a “big girl,” I have been anything but functional figuring out my next steps. Goins’ words reassured me that I am in fact going in the right direction when my eyes landed on this paragraph:

So if you still have a reasonable amount of control over your circumstances, you should do what really matters. Because life won’t always be just about you.

So true. As the academic year is wrapping up, the most common phrase I hear from my senior friends is “I need to figure out what I want/am going to do.” Another common phrase I hear is “I want to go back to (insert foreign city or country) again.” So DO IT before it’s too late! This is the time when we are young, attractive and healthy individuals, with no back pains to rest out or diapers to change (but don’t get me wrong I adore babies). This is the time when we can just indulge all on our own and figure ourselves out.

While my mom still worries when I go to places by myself, I find it to be the most liberating and valuable lesson. In the times I stayed in Taiwan and Korea on my own, the possibilities were endless. I learned something new every single day in the way I wanted to see it, from the way people communicated to the insignificant differences between mainland China and Taipei. Even traveling with my friends to Southeast Asia opened my eyes up to new adventures. I have never heard from any of my friends who studied abroad to say they didn’t enjoy their time overseas. Squeeze in that last bit of traveling now and maybe you will figure out what you want/are going to do in that time.

I, however, am at a different stage right now. While I would happily book the next flight back to Singapore or take my first walk down Champs-Élysées in a heartbeat, I know this is the best time to take my first serious step towards starting my career. The reason I like Goins’ post so much is because it still applies to my current transition phase. Though I’ve been faced with difficult decisions on choosing what I want to do versus what I should do, Goins reminded me to pursue my real long-term goals which will ultimately make me happy. While I recognize the risk of not liking my decision and possibly taking a complete 180 in a few years, it doesn’t matter because right now I know it’s what I want to do and right now is the best time to make that choice. As Goins says,

Do this while you’re still young. Do not squander the time. You will never have it again.

Thank you Goins. You just made my day. And now I’m craving fresh crab from Malaysia.

Missed Goins’ post up top? Click here to read: 3 Reasons to Travel While You’re Young

2012 Highlights

While my posts have been less frequent this year, I wanted to share my blogging summary of 2012 to those who are still reading. Thank you to those who have followed me since the beginning when I first joined WordPress in 2011, and thanks to the new subscribers who have shown interest along the way. Below, you will see that some of my popular posts are from earlier times when I first talked about my dancing in Taiwan and other travel experiences this year.

Here’s an excerpt:

600 people reached the top of Mt. Everest in 2012. This blog got about 3,800 views in 2012. If every person who reached the top of Mt. Everest viewed this blog, it would have taken 6 years to get that many views.

Click here to see the complete report.

My blogging New Year’s resolution is to revamp this blog for my new research project for spring 2013, and sit down to write those much-needed posts of my last days in Taiwan. There are 21 days left of winter break, so I hope to whip these out before my last semester of undergrad begins!

In terms of my personal accomplishments, 2012 has been a dynamic and successful year. The same time last year I was frantic about preparing for my semester abroad in Beijing. In this year, I have completed my semester abroad, traveled to multiple cities in China and Southeast Asia, interned in Beijing, came back and completed my first semester of senior year. In between I have met incredible people throughout the world, built stronger relationships with the ones back home, and had a lot of fun all around. There is much more that differentiated this year from others, but I’m just happy to have had the chance to share these moments with family and friends. I am more than ready to take on what 2013 has in store for me.

Happy New Year everyone! Have fun and be safe :)